1. sugaredvenom: genderbitch: tranzient: iamwhoiamandidontgiveadamn: strikematchlightfiyah: TW FOR RAPE/RAPE APOLOGY/RAPE CULTURE murinate: gareth-bales-peen: palopoli: This photo was taken the night I was raped. March 20, 2010. The boy who has the red ‘X’ over his face was my attacker. The rest are my friends. The photo was taken at a cast party. He was supposed to have given me a ride home. I’m finally letting the world know. I’m sure many people at my school already knew because of rumours due to the police officers that hovered around me. But now, over a year later, I’m ready to officially admit it to everyone: I was raped. I’ve almost posted this many times before, but I lose courage. I’m going to post it this time. I want to spread courage to other people. No matter what the circumstances were, it is in no way your fault. If you were sexually assaulted, you are not in the wrong. If you didn’t want it to happen, it shouldn’t have happened. I know how you feel. Dehumanized, degraded, unimportant, ashamed. I WAS ashamed. Because of what he did to me I felt ashamed. Why did it feel so embarrassing? You should not be ashamed. It is an act of violence. Someone attacked you. Fuck them. They should not be allowed to get away with it. He was not allowed to get away with it. Yes, you will cry. Yes, you will feel awful. And yes, it gets better. Tell someone. A parent, a friend, a teacher, anyone. It helps, I swear on my life it helps. You’re not alone. You’re never alone. You are important. You are strong. I’m happy. You deserve to be happy, too. -Annabella it’s really sad and all that you got raped, but i’m assuming that you’re the girl whose face isn’t blurred and is hanging all over your presumed attacker, touching his chest, and letting him invade your personal space. maybe you should also think about the messages that you send instead of blaming it all on the “attacker”. no, gaby. that statement is all kinds of wrong.  I’m not sorry…WHAT. WHAT. WHAT WHAT WHAT.  delete your reblog. delete your blog. delete everything. Dear Shitnugget that posted the worst comment I have ever seen after a personal story like this: Flirting is NOT consentTouching someone casually is NOT consentGetting a ride home with someone is NOT consentBeing friends with someone is NOT consent. An enthusiastic “YES” is the ONLY consent.  That is it.  End of the story.  No arguing. No “but…”  No “yeah well…” . Nothing this person is doing in the photo is enthusiastically giving consent to her attacker (NO QUOTATIONS. he attacked her, he is an attacker). what a terrible person that should never open their mouth again. if there is no consent there is no rape. and this is CONSENT, not touching, not flirting, nothing but CONSENT. it doesn’t matter what the actions of the victim were, it’s about the attacker’s actions only. Reblogging for OP’s message and commentary nailing the piece of shit rape apologist who is victim blaming her. To the asshole that isn’t any of the awesome people: You are an absolute fucking scumbag. Sort your fucking life out and stop victim-blaming. To OP: You’re very brave to share this, thank you <3 To OP: Thankyou so much for sharing this, your strength makes me feel strong. To the PD who has reblogged this with his fucking ballsed comment. Go away and grow a pair. REAL MEN DO NOT RAPE AND ARE FEMINISTS. FUCK YOU.

    sugaredvenom:

    genderbitch:

    tranzient:

    iamwhoiamandidontgiveadamn:

    strikematchlightfiyah:

    TW FOR RAPE/RAPE APOLOGY/RAPE CULTURE

    murinate:

    gareth-bales-peen:

    palopoli:

    This photo was taken the night I was raped.

    March 20, 2010.

    The boy who has the red ‘X’ over his face was my attacker. The rest are my friends.

    The photo was taken at a cast party. He was supposed to have given me a ride home.

    I’m finally letting the world know. I’m sure many people at my school already knew because of rumours due to the police officers that hovered around me. But now, over a year later, I’m ready to officially admit it to everyone: I was raped.

    I’ve almost posted this many times before, but I lose courage. I’m going to post it this time. I want to spread courage to other people. No matter what the circumstances were, it is in no way your fault. If you were sexually assaulted, you are not in the wrong. If you didn’t want it to happen, it shouldn’t have happened.

    I know how you feel. Dehumanized, degraded, unimportant, ashamed. I WAS ashamed. Because of what he did to me I felt ashamed. Why did it feel so embarrassing? You should not be ashamed. It is an act of violence. Someone attacked you. Fuck them. They should not be allowed to get away with it. He was not allowed to get away with it.

    Yes, you will cry. Yes, you will feel awful. And yes, it gets better. Tell someone. A parent, a friend, a teacher, anyone. It helps, I swear on my life it helps.

    You’re not alone. You’re never alone. You are important. You are strong.

    I’m happy. You deserve to be happy, too.

    -Annabella

    it’s really sad and all that you got raped, but i’m assuming that you’re the girl whose face isn’t blurred and is hanging all over your presumed attacker, touching his chest, and letting him invade your personal space.

    maybe you should also think about the messages that you send instead of blaming it all on the “attacker”.

    no, gaby. that statement is all kinds of wrong. 

    I’m not sorry…WHAT. WHAT. WHAT WHAT WHAT. 

    delete your reblog. delete your blog. delete everything.

    Dear Shitnugget that posted the worst comment I have ever seen after a personal story like this:

    Flirting is NOT consent
    Touching someone casually is NOT consent
    Getting a ride home with someone is NOT consent
    Being friends with someone is NOT consent.

    An enthusiastic “YES” is the ONLY consent.  That is it.  End of the story.  No arguing. No “but…”  No “yeah well…” .

    Nothing this person is doing in the photo is enthusiastically giving consent to her attacker (NO QUOTATIONS. he attacked her, he is an attacker).

    what a terrible person that should never open their mouth again. if there is no consent there is no rape. and this is CONSENT, not touching, not flirting, nothing but CONSENT. it doesn’t matter what the actions of the victim were, it’s about the attacker’s actions only.

    Reblogging for OP’s message and commentary nailing the piece of shit rape apologist who is victim blaming her.

    To the asshole that isn’t any of the awesome people: You are an absolute fucking scumbag. Sort your fucking life out and stop victim-blaming.

    To OP: You’re very brave to share this, thank you <3

    To OP: Thankyou so much for sharing this, your strength makes me feel strong.

    To the PD who has reblogged this with his fucking ballsed comment. Go away and grow a pair. REAL MEN DO NOT RAPE AND ARE FEMINISTS. FUCK YOU.

Notes

  1. thegoddamazon reblogged this from palopoli and added:
    is really inspiring. And for...people criticizing this girl just because she
  2. kiwifruitoid reblogged this from sototallynottyler and added:
    I would love to know what is wrong with people. It’s never a victim’s fault no matter what they were doing before the...
  3. sototallynottyler reblogged this from cupkacie and added:
    o. m. f. g. i could go off on that effing trick.
  4. maxine-shaw reblogged this from cupkacie and added:
    Consent> BS victim-blaming
  5. cupkacie reblogged this from thechargingsky and added:
    “If you didn’t want it to happen, it shouldn’t have happened.” It’s that fucking simple.
  6. therealjabberwocky reblogged this from fuckrapeculture and added:
    male room mate who...good friend. There are lot...pictures...
  7. thechargingsky reblogged this from fuckrapeculture
  8. andthenthatwordgrewlouder reblogged this from betrayalisbetrayal
  9. creativity-at-work reblogged this from stopandpause
  10. hillsofwastedtime reblogged this from stopandpause
  11. stopandpause reblogged this from palopoli and added:
    I’m happy and proud that you don’t think it’s your fault because it is never the victim’s fault in something like this....
  12. mama-avio reblogged this from like-a-disney-love-song and added:
    i completely agree with Nana. how fucking dare you try to say it’s her fault. i just. no. that is ridiculously...
  13. mrrralphie reblogged this from kingsandqueensofpromise and added:
    I hate when people assume that men are the only ones who are capable of rape. Women are rapists too not just men.
  14. like-a-disney-love-song reblogged this from maiavalentine
  15. maiavalentine reblogged this from getundermyfrills and added:
    Victim blaming/shaming is so fucking disgusting that I want to vomit when people do it. OP is incredibly brave, and...
  16. getundermyfrills reblogged this from kingsandqueensofpromise and added:
    ^ Everything she said. I have been almost raped twice, and I did not even KNOW these people, you can’t say someone...
  17. justknowthatiwillalwaysloveyou reblogged this from palopoli
  18. prettyontheinside- reblogged this from areyoupassionate and added:
    palopoli: This photo was taken...night I was raped. March 20, 2010. The boy who has the...
  19. textincontext reblogged this from im-a-bitch and added:
    To OP: Thankyou so much for sharing this, your strength makes me feel strong. To the PD who has reblogged this with his...
  20. im-a-bitch reblogged this from inherhipstheresrevolutions
  21. tandice reblogged this from palopoli and added:
    Excuse me? No one asks for that. I was sexually harassed by my uncle last summer. I’m pretty sure I didn’t ask for that....
  22. i-die-and-i-live reblogged this from jdspickles
  23. jdspickles reblogged this from sashalovesyoux3
  24. sashalovesyoux3 reblogged this from palopoli
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  27. itsbeartime reblogged this from consensual
  28. eightmilehigh reblogged this from peachandquiet and added:
    It doesn’t matter what you wear or how much you drink. They don’t care either. Rape happens, and no victim chooses it. I...

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